Who we are now has so much to do with who we were as kids and how we grew up. Do you ever wonder how children can be raised by the same parents and still turn out to be so different as adults?
Every home is different — some parents are better than others when it comes to showing affection, or modeling healthy relationships, or teaching values. Two siblings can grow up in the same house and end up being WILDLY different people! It’s strange, isn’t it? But the thing is, we’re all unique people — so, each child develops their own perspective and takes away different lessons, values, fears, and memories.
Our perspectives and deeply held beliefs are formed over time, starting very early on. Of course, perspectives can change, but those early beliefs help to shape how we see things going forward. Here’s the thing, though: sometimes, those perspectives are based on false assumptions. The way that we remember certain events can seem very real to us, but there can be a big gap between how we recall things and what really happened — especially when we’re talking about childhood memories! [Read more…]